It’s Moving Day!

The Tidy Mom is Here!

Friends, I am so excited to share with you that I’m officially moving in! My new website,, is ready for company in all of its unfinished glory.

Subscribers will have access to my top ten tips for getting your house in tip-top shape, as well as other exclusive subscriber-only content, so if you’re not signed up yet you’ll definitely want to do so here.

{Current email subscribers, you will automatically be moved over so you don’t need to do a thing.}

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Other October News

I’m also thrilled to let you know that I’ve teamed up with my Canadian blogging friend, Darlene Schacht of Time-Warp Wife, to offer a 31 day marriage series this October. We’re Praying through Proverbs with married couples all over the world at her MarriagePrayers.Today site.


I’ve read Darlene’s blog for years and her articles have helped me become a better wife in so many ways, so becoming real-life friends and now working on a prayer series together is a huge honor and blessing.

You can read all the details about this beautiful new series in Darlene’s lovely announcement.


Left to Right: Mandi, Ashleigh, me & Darlene at Allume 2014 in Charleston, SC

Tell me one good thing going on in your own life right now – I’d love to rejoice with you.

The Difference Three Hours Can Make

I rose early, resisting the temptation to snuggle close to my husband and drift back to dreamland. Tiptoeing across the hardwood floor to the kitchen, I squinted at the glowing numbers on our 1980’s microwave. Three hours. That’s all I had. I knew I couldn’t do everything I needed to in that amount of time.

But I could do something.

3 hours to a haven

So I wiped the previous evening’s mascara from my eyes, brushed my teeth, and pulled open curtains to let the morning light softly awaken my home.

Time to work, I told myself softly.

As I hurried, I kept silently echoing a phrase: Love them enough to give them a soft place to land. Focused on that thought, I rapidly waded through clutter, scrubbed counters and swept floors, one eye continually on the clock.

Only three hours.

Here’s the difference:

Kitchen Before and After

“Our kitchens are where we pour love into the foods we make, reconnect as a family, entertain guests, sit and linger over coffee with friends, and where many childhood memories are made.” – Davonne Parks, Chaos to Clutter-Free

Living Room Before and After

“Remember that the less there is, the less there is to clean. And, the less stuff there is, the more usable space you will have.” – Davonne Parks, Chaos to Clutter-Free

Bathroom Hallway Before After

Wanting an easy success, I tackled the bathroom and hallway next. What you’re seeing on the toilet paper holder isn’t toilet paper – those are paper towels that I tore into fourths. #KeepingItReal

Bedroom Before and After

It took exactly 30 minutes to make the master bedroom feel clean and cozy(ish) again. Hemming curtains and replacing the mirror are on my mental to-do list.

girls room cleanup

And then I decided that, bad allergies or not, it was time for my sleeping beauties to rise and shine.

playroom cleanup

By this time I was tired and wanted to stop cleaning. But I decided I could push through for just a little longer and do a 30-minute power session in our school/play room.

Far from perfect. But so much better. Three hours (and sixteen minutes). That’s all it took to create a haven, a soft place for my family to land, at the end of a long day.

How would you bless your home if you had three extra hours?

home is a haven

$500 Cash Giveaway

Friends, I am so excited to share with you that housekeeping isn’t the only thing I’ve been working on – I’ve also gotten together with a group of bloggers to bless a family with $500 (Paypal) CASH!

Our hope is that we can monetarily bless a family so they can pay off a bill, be able to have their kids participate in extra curricular activities, begin an emergency fund, or take a little weekend getaway.


For your chance to win $500 CASH, simply use the Rafflecopter form below to enter –

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Giveaway ends August 25th, 2015 at 11:59pm EDT.  Must be at least 18 years of age.  Selected winner will have 48 hours to respond to email notification to claim their prize or another winner will be drawn.

I’d love to hear – what would you do with an extra $500?

How Busy People Keep Clean {Enough} Homes

Between working full time for a season, homeschooling my kids, investing in our neighborhood friends, being actively involved in our local church, and carving out time to nurture my marriage, saying that my life is full right now is probably an understatement!

I’m sure your life is very full too, and finding time to clean isn’t always easy.

But since I’d much rather come home to a relaxing haven than a draining disaster, I’ve made it a priority to figure out how to keep a clean(ish) house even with a really busy schedule. My house is definitely not perfect but I do have a few tips to share with you.

clean kitchen

Here’s how to keep a clean {enough} house when you’re really busy:

1) Just do something.

We can unload and reload the dishwasher, run a load of laundry, or tidy the living room. Many days, we may be able to do more than one of those and cleaning a little bit at a time will help keep the house in decent condition.

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2) Put it away, right away.

As soon as you’re done using an item, put it back where it belongs before moving on to the next thing. Simple to do. Easy to forget 🙂

3) Don’t clean alone!

It would often be easier to clean up myself than to have my kids help. And sometimes I do clean it myself, but as parents it’s our job to train our kids to take care of their own things. After-all, we don’t want our children to struggle with housekeeping when they have their own homes and families to take care of, right?

Plus once they’re trained well, it really does get easier.

{Related: 6 Tear-Free Ways to Get Kids to Clean and How to Get Your Kids to Willingly Pitch in With Chores.}

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4) Have a cleaning day(s).

I used to have one big cleaning day each week. Then my friend Crystal said her family does housework on Tuesdays and Saturdays. Light bulb moment – cleaning up 3 days worth of mess is way easier than cleaning a solid week’s worth!

Now we catch up on Mondays, Thursdays, and Saturdays. This way if we miss one day, it’s no big deal because there’s another cleaning day coming up soon. And when we don’t miss a day, the house looks fantastic(ish)!

5) Buy convenience foods or cook in bulk.

Sometimes it’s worth picking up a rotisserie chicken or a package of hot dogs to pair with a veggie for a quick dinner. It’s also good to cook one or two large meals a week, then use paper plates when eating the leftovers.

This way we can use those precious minutes to focus on other household chores instead of laboring over a hot stove every single night.

Beach Living Room

6) Pay someone!

For two years, I paid a teenage girl to help in my home one afternoon a week. That was money very well spent! Now that Lily and Grace are older, sometimes I pay them or their neighborhood friends a little cash to help with simple chores on cleaning day.

If it’s in your budget, hiring a regular housekeeper would also be a good thing to consider.

7) Embrace Imperfection

Our houses may not be as clean and organized as we’d like, but we are so blessed to have homes to live in, stuff to enjoy, dishes to eat on, clothes to wear, and people to love. And while we should be good stewards of our possessions, we also need to be okay with just doing our best even when our best is less than perfect.

Do you have any extra tips for maintaining a clean {enough} home during busy seasons of life?

10 Ways Cleaning is Like Dieting

I gaze at myself in the mirror, the frustration evident in my expression. Your house is disgusting, I tell myself. Why do you keep losing the same 10 pounds of junk over and over again? Why can’t you just get it together and keep your house clean like other women?

That voice in the mirror – she used to stop me. Her unkind expression and tough words would discourage me. This time though, I look past the scowl. Instead, I gaze into her familiar blue-green eyes and see deep into her soul. I see weariness, desperation.

But I also see a spark of something else. I look deeper. That spark is a glimmer of hope, a longing to hear kind words.


You can do this, I tell myself, timid at first. You can clean your house. It’s just stuff. My thoughts grow bolder as I silently speak to my reflection. You’re capable. Just clean one room for now – only a few pounds of clutter. I believe in you.

I smile encouragingly at my reflection as I determine to finally get my house under control. I know that to make a lasting change, I need to stop shoving stuff into corners – stop “sucking in” to make my home look lighter. It’s time to actually throw away all the junk and then refuse to buy any more.

As I clean, I realize that decluttering is very similar to a food diet. Here are 10 examples:

10 ways housekeeping is like dieting

1) We must throw out the junk.

If you have a sweet tooth like me, then eating healthy is nearly impossible if there’s junk food in the house! Likewise, a house filled to the brim with stuff is just begging for messes to be made.

The best way to combat this is to simply get rid of the junk! You (and your house) will feel so much lighter because of it.


2) The junk has to stay away.

Throwing away junk food is absolutely pointless if we’re just going to load up on sweets the next time we’re at the store. And getting rid of clutter is a waste of time if we’re going to buy a ton of stuff when we pass a yard sale. To make lasting improvements, the junk has to go away, and then it needs to stay away.

3) Tummy control panels can only do so much.

A tummy control slip might smooth out the lumps and a closet may hide some clutter, but eventually things are going to spill out if we don’t get rid of the excess.


4) We need to work hard if we want to lose some weight.

Most of us don’t expect to lose weight by watching TV and eating a bunch of junk food. We also can’t expect the house to get clean if we’re spending hours a day reading or talking on the phone.

In order to drop the extra weight – or excess clutter – we have to actually roll up our sleeves and get to work!


5) One bad afternoon doesn’t mean it’s another failed attempt.

Sometimes dieters eat 3 brownies on Thursday afternoon, then think they blew it so they wait until Monday to start back on their diet. But that’s 4 days they could have been making good choices instead.

Housekeeping is the same way – a huge mess on Wednesday doesn’t mean the house is hopeless until the weekend. Just start where you are and do what you can, when you can.


6) Maintenance is mandatory.

Sure, a crash dieter can lose a bunch of weight fast. But in order to keep the weight off, she must ultimately make the decision to improve her lifestyle as she finds joy in preparing nutritious meals and snacks.

Likewise, someone who’s putting her home on a clutter diet can learn to find joy in creating a haven as she develops the necessary habits for keeping a cleaner home.


{Whether your result is a cleaner house or a healthier you, working to develop good habits pays off big time in the long run.}

7) We have to want it for ourselves.

While a get-together may spur us on towards a smaller waistline or cleaner floors, those things aren’t going to produce lasting change. In order to really create a long term difference, we have to want the change for us, and our goal should have more to do with better health or peace of mind, and less to do with a number on a scale or a “right” to show off a job well done.

8 ) Every little bit makes a difference.

Choosing a salad over a burger at the drive thru or washing dishes instead of checking Facebook may not seem like a big deal, but those little decisions add up to huge progress over time.


9 ) We should always offer grace.

The path to changing habits is a difficult one. It’s always easier to slide back into our comfortable patterns of junk food and junk rooms.

But that thing we do in front of the mirror, berating ourselves? Let’s stop that! Speak kindly. We should encourage ourselves. Let’s let someone else have the job of being our worst critic – we can choose love and grace.


{When our “after” seems worse than our “before,” we can give ourselves grace as we determine to keep making progress.}

10) Our worth is not found in our weight.

Whether the extra pounds want to cling to our hips or our closets, our worth is not found in how much we – or our homes – weigh. We are valuable because we’re us and no amount of dieting will change that.


Did I miss anything? What do you notice that cleaning and dieting have in common?